Showing posts with label Love Beats Hate Blogging Event. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Love Beats Hate Blogging Event. Show all posts

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Lean on One Another

I Murder Hate
Robert Burns (1759–1796). Poems and Songs.

304. Song—I Murder hate

I MURDER hate by flood or field,
Tho’ glory’s name may screen us;
In wars at home I’ll spend my blood—
Life-giving wars of Venus.
The deities that I adore
Are social Peace and Plenty;
I’m better pleas’d to make one more,
Than be the death of twenty.
In illness, I only have energy in my life for what is important.  My family, my pets, my friends, my work, my internet family come first.   Sometimes my priorites get a little mixed up, but these are generally where my focus and my effort are given.

Hate filled rhetoric is something I don't listen to, I don't read it, I don't spend energy on it.  I find it deplorable, sad, and often the sign that an argument has no basis EXCEPT an emotional one.  Hate is a powerful emotion and conjures up fear, paranoia, anger and often gives the hater an adrenal rush - a physical high from the "fight or flight" response:
fight-or-flight response, response to an acute threat to survival that is marked by physical changes, including nervous and endocrine changes, that prepare a human or an animal to react or to retreat. The functions of this response were first described in the early 1900s by American neurologist and physiologist Walter Bradford Cannon.

When a threat is perceived, the sympathetic nerve fibres of the autonomic nervous system are activated. This leads to the release of certain hormones from the endocrine system. In physiological terms, a major action of these hormones is to initiate a rapid, generalized response. (http://www.britannica.com/ - Fight or Flight response, 2011)
These primitive responses to perceived threats or stress are born into all of us.  Hatemongers use these physiological signals to heighten our reactions to their speech and actions, whether in a negative or positive manner.  Some may not be aware that our hind brains and autonomic nervous systems are giving more credence to their thoughts than rationally they are worth, but I am sure that most of the higher profile "shouting heads" we see and hear spouting devisive and corrosive opinions in all types of media are very aware of what they are doing.  This goes for both liberal and conservative, religious and secular talk.  There are no artificial boundaries for people who use this type of manipulation.

It is a shame that those with the least ability to resist the illogic of the arguments are also those who are more vulnerable both to the emotional overtones and to the fear and the rush that fostering hate gives one. Shame on persons who know they are agitating the unstable among us with fear and hate. Shame on the networks and radio stations and political parties and celebrities that build their reputations climbing over the bones of victims while proclaiming innocence and no intent to incite. 

What can we do about stopping this deluge of malintent and misinformation?  For one thing, I refuse to give it credence. Arguing back, trying to convince these people they are wrong is just feeding into the "fight" response. Ignoring it entirely is not an option either. This has been done throughout human history and atrocities and genocide have been the result. Education with a forum like this (Love Beats Hate Blogging Event) is a start.  Analyzing what you are hearing or seeing, not responding on an emotional level helps.  Or we can all do as Robert Burns suggested almost three hundred years ago: concentrate on creating a peaceful society with plenty for all; instead of killing one another, love one another.

In 1972 Bill Withers wrote  "Lean on me when you are not strong... for it won't be long until I'm gonna need somebody to lean on".  These words ring as true in 2011 as they did then.  Let's lean on one another and not tear each other down.  Don't waste your energy on hate and negativity. I won't.


Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Love Beats Hate: The Golden Rule

The Ethic of Reciprocity

One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself
One should not treat others in ways that one would not like to be treated
The quote above is from the Wikipedia entry on The Golden Rule.  This is a standard that I have tried to live my life by.  It is a standard I was raised with.  In the rural Midwest almost everyone I knew was familiar with this concept and most tried to live this as best they could.

Being a Christian, I associate this rule with my faith.  However, this is a tenet in most major religions and philosophies in the world, ancient and current.  It is a rule you can apply if you are an atheist, a deist, an agnositic, a Muslim, a Christian, a Hindu, a Wiccan, or any other belief system.  A child can understand this, an adult can understand this. 

Also called the ethic of reciprocity, applying this rule to daily life and interactions with others relies on empathy for others, reflecting our behavior towards others onto ourselves and feeling the effects that behavior would have as if we were the ones on the receiving end.  For this ethic to work most effectively, each person should feel empathy for others.

How do we get people in this self centered self serving world to be empathetic?  How do we get close minded people to understand when they hurt others with words or actions they are actually hurting themselves?  They are caught up in the "moment" absorbed with inconsequential celebrity.  Their own hubris drives their actions, with their inconsideration of others amplified by their own inflated sense of importance.  Humble has become a term of weakness rather than strength.  Caring for others is a weapon to turn against someone.  Popularity rules.  Bullies win.  This is WRONG.

I wish I had an answer for this.  I was taught these rules from a young age.  I fear the distractability of technology is diluting this message each generation.  I see the reach of the bullies and the name callers and the haters extended and magnified by technology, to the point that those being bullied feel surrounded with no way to escape.  Yet I see my great nieces and nephews and young nieces and nephews living loving and caring lives, practicing the Golden Rule (even if they don't call it that!) in their everyday life.  

Wishing there was a way to magnify and extend empathy that was as popular as as all the hate talk.   A recent post from Sue at InnerDorothy about the play "The Laramie Project" was inspiring. Thoughtful empathetic adults found a way to turn the tragic torture and murder of a young gay man in Laramie Wyoming into a teaching opportunity.  Hoping they continue with their efforts and the education continues.  This is the kind of hate crime that following the Golden Rule would prevent.

Try searching the internet using the term The Golden Rule and see where the net takes you.  There are serious philosophy research papers done on this, organizations based on this, essays searching for the answer to these questions that have been with us from the beginning of time.  Happy voyaging.  Hoping that YOU will be the one that changes the life of another by applying the Golden Rule and better your life in the bargain.